Society is Changing

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Americans are having a record low amount of sex. We find that in 1990, 55% of adults ages 18–64 reported having sex weekly, according to the General Social Survey (GSS). But around the turn of the millennium, that number began to dip: by 2010, less than half reported having sex weekly, and by 2024, of the more than 1,000 men and women queried on this topic by the GSS, that number had fallen to just 37 percent.

While the decline in sex has been most acute among younger generations, older adults have not been left unscathed. And notably, the sex recession is making inroads among married couples. Between 1996 and 2008, 59% of married adults, ages 18-64, reported having sex once a week or more. That number fell to 49% for the period of 2010 to 2024. Married couples are seeing declines in sexual frequency across age groups.

It’s no coincidence that a decline in marital sex follows the digital revolution. Today’s electronic opiates not only depress partnering and marriage among young adults—they also weaken already established relationships. A 2023 IFS study found that married adults reported lower sexual frequency when their spouse substituted couple time for phone or computer use. Furthermore, bedtime procrastination is a rising habit. So-called bedtime procrastinators spend two hours using some form of digital media in the three hours leading up to sleep. It’s not surprising that more social media, Netflix, or gaming on the part of spouses translates to less intimacy.

I was about 2010 when a co-worker at Microsoft told me she wanted to have a second child, but she was having doubts about the desirability of her husband being a long-term partner. He, basically, was no longer interested in sex. He also was a computer programmer at Microsoft and when at home he played video games and wrote software for new video games. He was a decent enough father to their child. She was, and is, quite attractive. They did not lack money, but she wanted physical attention in multiple ways. He spent his time in the digital world.

I suggested counseling and some books, but I don’t think she followed up on any of my suggestions or found an alternate solution. She is still married to the same guy and only has the one child.

It has been years since I last talked to her or even corresponded with her, but it still makes me sad to think about her situation.

The Devil is in the Details

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It’s easy to talk about “sensible gun control” when you don’t actually lay out what that means.

spf4000
August 31, 2025
What “Meaningful Gun Control” is this author talking about? : r/liberalgunowners

You see this all the time in various forms. People will make some statement or series of statements that sound good, but do not include details. It might be better roads and bridges but no details about how it will be paid for. It might be affordable housing but do not mention they intend to take money from other people to pay for the housing.

Politicians are great on broad stroke statements. But they either don’t understand details are important, or they are deliberately hiding the devil in the details of what they intend to do.

Be careful What You Wish For

This is to all those people who claim Trump is a pedophile and demanding the release of the “Epstein Files” to confirm it. You should consider the following:

Is There Evidence That Donald Trump Is a Pedophile?

The internet is rife with accusations, insinuations, and conspiracy theories about public figures—none more polarizing than Donald J. Trump. Among the most serious claims is the allegation that Trump is a pedophile. This post examines the available evidence, legal history, and public associations that have fueled such speculation. Spoiler: the label is not supported by verified legal findings.

🧾 Legal Allegations Involving Minors

  • 1994 Lawsuit (Filed in 2016) A woman filed a civil suit alleging that Trump raped her when she was 13 years old at parties hosted by Jeffrey Epstein. The case was dropped before trial, and the claims were never substantiated in court. Trump’s legal team dismissed the suit as “unequivocally false” and politically motivated1.
  • Pageant Dressing Room Incidents Trump has been accused of walking in on teenage contestants during his ownership of beauty pageants. In a 2005 Howard Stern interview, Trump said:
  • General Sexual Misconduct Allegations Over 25 women have accused Trump of sexual misconduct ranging from groping to non-consensual kissing. These allegations span decades but do not involve minors1.

🧠 The Epstein Connection

Trump and Jeffrey Epstein were social acquaintances in the 1990s and early 2000s. Epstein, a convicted sex offender, was known for abusing underage girls. Trump was quoted in a 2002 New York Magazine profile saying:

“I’ve known Jeff for fifteen years. Terrific guy. He’s a lot of fun to be with. It is even said that he likes beautiful women as much as I do, and many of them are on the younger side.” Trump later claimed to have severed ties with Epstein long before his arrest2.

🗳️ Trump’s Political Affiliation Timeline During Epstein Contact

Trump’s relationship with Epstein spanned a period when Trump was not formally aligned with any major political party:

YearEventPolitical Affiliation
Late 1980s–1990sTrump and Epstein socialize at Mar-a-Lago and other elite events2 3Registered Democrat (1987–1999)
2000Trump and Melania photographed with Epstein and Ghislaine Maxwell 2Reform Party (briefly ran for president)
2001–2008Trump continues public life and reality TV fame; Epstein charged in 2006Registered Democrat (2001–2008)
2009Trump switches to Republican PartyRepublican
2016Trump elected PresidentRepublican

Trump claimed in 2019 that he hadn’t spoken to Epstein in “15 years,” suggesting their last contact was around 20041 2. That would place their final interactions during Trump’s time as a registered Democrat.

📜 Court Documents and Public Records

Recent unsealed court documents from Epstein-related cases mention Trump in passing—primarily as someone who attended social events. Importantly, none of these documents accuse Trump of criminal behavior or involvement in Epstein’s trafficking network2.

🧩 Summary: What the Evidence Shows

  • No criminal charges or convictions link Trump to pedophilia.
  • One civil lawsuit alleged rape of a minor but was dropped and never adjudicated.
  • Trump’s past comments and behavior—especially around beauty pageants—have raised ethical concerns but not legal ones involving minors.
  • His association with Epstein remains a source of public suspicion, but no direct evidence implicates him in Epstein’s crimes.
  • During the period of documented contact with Epstein, Trump was mostly affiliated with the Democratic Party or politically unaffiliated.

🧠 Why This Matters

Accusations of pedophilia are among the most serious that can be leveled against anyone. In Trump’s case, the claims are largely speculative, rooted in unproven lawsuits and controversial associations. That doesn’t mean scrutiny isn’t warranted—but it does mean we should distinguish between verified facts and viral innuendo.

  1. The facts and timeline of Trump and Epstein’s falling out | PBS News
  2. Timeline of Trump and Epstein’s relationship, and what Trump has said about their falling out – ABC News
  3. Jeffrey Epstein and Donald Trump: a timeline | CBC News

By claiming that Trump is a pedophile, you are setting yourself up for trap. This trap could be sprung by the release of the files, if they exist, and discovering there is no evidence Trump had inappropriate relations with minors. Then what? You will claim the files were whitewashed by the Trump administration? And how do you defend against the claim that it was the Biden and/or Obama administration that added the incrimination evidence?

The end result is that you now have just added another data point to the claim you are just slinging mud again.

Assuming your claims are validated then what? You just added another high-profile Democrat, such as Bill Clinton, to the list.

Building Things Atom by Atom

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By using an electron beam, or e-beam, to remove and deposit the atoms, the ORNL scientists could accomplish a direct writing procedure at the atomic level.

“The process is remarkably intuitive,” said ORNL’s Andrew Lupini, STEM group leader and a member of the research team. “STEMs work by transmitting a high-energy e-beam through a material. The e-beam is focused to a point smaller than the distance between atoms and scans across the material to create an image with atomic resolution. However, STEMs are notorious for damaging the very materials they are imaging.”

The scientists realized they could exploit this destructive “bug” and instead use it as a constructive feature and create holes on purpose. Then, they can put whatever atom they want in that hole, exactly where they made the defect. By purposely damaging the material, they create a new material with different and useful properties.

“We’re exploring methods to create these defects on demand so we can place them where we want to,” Jesse said. “Since STEMs have atomic-scale imaging capabilities, and we work with very thin materials that are only a few atoms in thickness, we can see every atom. So, we are manipulating matter at the atomic scale in real time. That’s the goal, and we are actually achieving it.”

To demonstrate the method, the researchers moved an e-beam back and forth over a graphene lattice, creating minuscule holes. They inserted tin atoms into those holes and achieved a continuous, atom-by-atom, direct writing process, thereby populating the exact same places where the carbon atom had been with tin atoms.

“We believe that atomic-scale synthesis processes could become a matter of routine using relatively simple strategies. When coupled with automated beam control and AI-driven analysis and discovery, the synthescope concept offers a window into atomic synthesis processes and a unique approach to atomic-scale manufacturing,” Jesse said.

Dawn M Levy
September 24, 2024
‘Writing’ with atoms could transform materials fabrication for quantum devices

They can create new materials atom by atom. I can’t imagine the limits to such a tool. What sort of “alloys” could be made? Could there be energy storage devices like batteries and capacitors far beyond the capacities of our current devices? What about explosive compounds? Imagine drones the size of a mosquito carrying a super toxin or explosives payload to someone’s middle ear or up a nostril. Or nanobots roaming the bloodstream to clear an infection, clogged blood vessels, or cancer.

Living in the future is wild.

This is What They Think of Republicans.

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You are supposed to fight terrorist. Republicans are legit terrorist. Look up the definition of the word. Would you not fight SHitler?

Mike @xxdaddycoolxx91
Posted on X, September 16, 2024

See also: The Immortal on X: “@libsoftiktok 2.5 minutes of Democrats explicitly calling for using political vioIence. They own this. https://t.co/B1T8RfTJ3u” / X.

Via Greg Price on X: “The Trump campaign broke out every single receipt in the world. https://t.co/e5M3wd4Bm8” / X:

This is what they think of Republicans.

It should come as no surprise to anyone that President Trump does not have much respect for anything Democrats say or think about him. Which, of course, inflames them even more.

It is difficult to back down from this level of rhetoric.

Prepare appropriately.

Planning for Nuclear Warfare

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A chilling Cold War-era map has surfaced, providing a stark outlook for the United States post-nuclear warfare, with predictions indicating that up to 75% of the population could die from radiation in the most affected states. The world’s nuclear-armed countries include the US, UK, France, Russia, and China, as well as Pakistan, India, and North Korea.

Joshua Taylor & Laura Colgan
October 11, 2024
Nuclear map shows states where 75% of Americans would die if WW3 broke out

This doesn’t include the wild cards of North Korea and Iran.

Prepare appropriately.

On a related note, my underground bunker in Idaho now has electricity and running water. No ventilation or toilet, but it is close to being habitable.

Then the Gun Control Debate is Over

Via Political Pug @pug_political:

See also here and here.

There should not have ever been a debate. It should have been long prison sentences for every politician who voted for infringements.

No Excuse

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Events like these should not be our ‘normal.’ The simple solution is to pass sensible gun control. Without that, these tragedies will continue to happen, and children will continue to die.

Shri Thanedar
U.S. Representative, D-Mich
August 27, 2025
Dem lawmakers call for gun control after Minneapolis school shooting

In these days there is no excuse for not knowing that gun control is not the answer. It just doesn’t work.

I’m reminded of H. L. Mencken’s famous quote:

There is always a well-known solution to every human problem—neat, plausible, and wrong.

Because he has not excuse for saying something that stupid. I have to conclude it is a deliberate lie to further some unstated agenda. Therefore, I would also like to suggest Representative Thanedar read 18 U.S. Code § 242.

They Think of People Like Cattle

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When a patient comes into an emergency room, the doctors may or may not know what happened. They just know the patient was shot. Maybe they get some story from the paramedics about what happened, but that’s still only a small sliver of what’s really going on in the world of guns.

The doctors don’t see the 97-year-old woman who is only able to sleep at night because of the revolver in her nightstand. They don’t see the stalking victim who no longer fears for her safety after buying a Glock 19. They don’t see the guy who got shot dead by a father after the dude broke into the daughter’s bedroom in order to sexually assault her. They don’t see the mugger who ran away when his 30-year-old female target produced a firearm.

They don’t see any of that.

What they see is an unfortunate sliver of what all happens on a daily basis with guns.

More than that, how the shooter got a gun is never part of what they see in the ERs and ORs of this country. That comes later, and they’re often pontificating on the dangers of gun rights, all while being clueless about the fact that the shooting victim they treated was shot by an 18-year-old convicted felon with an illegally obtained handgun.

They don’t know nearly as much as many of them believe, but they’re so blinded by their own self-important arrogance that they can’t accept there’s more to the story.

Tom Knighton
August 21, 2025
Please Spare Us the Doctors Pushing Gun Control. Nobody Cares. – Bearing Arms

Good points.

Of course, some people have a far less nuanced view of things. There are people who see a violent criminal with a gunshot wound no different than an innocent criminal victim. It has been a while but as I have explained before sometimes these people view the general population as livestock. As a cattle owner, you don’t really care which cow started the fight. You don’t want any of them to be injured. They are, generally, of equal value to you whether they have a very pleasant personality or they are bullies to the other cattle in the herd.

I suspect the doctor Knighton was writing about is one of those people. As a doctor he is relatively smart and knows how to read and research. Yet the gunshot victims he sees are a gun problem and not a people problem.

They Know we are not a Criminal Threat

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While we acknowledge more guns pose a greater threat to our communities, CPL holders tend to be responsible gun owners.

Renée Hopkins
CEO of the Washington-based Alliance for Gun Responsibility
July 21, 2025
More Washingtonians than ever have a concealed carry license

In response, Dave Workman said: Somebody Finally Admits It!

At the highest levels the anti-gun people know CPL gun owners are not a threat to society. But they want us disarmed anyway.

Respond appropriately.

The Second Amendment is No Different.

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Common sense dictates that the right to bear arms requires a right to acquire arms, just as the right to free press necessarily includes the right to acquire a printing press, or the right to freely practice religion necessarily rests on a right to acquire a sacred text. Legal interpretation follows that common sense….

The burden imposed by a cooling-off period is brought into sharper focus when considered in the context of other constitutional rights. A carte blanche one-week cooling-off period to publish news stories? Unconstitutional. Temporary closures of churches during COVID-19? Unconstitutional. Roman Cath. Diocese of Brooklyn v. Cuomo (2020) (“The loss of First Amendment freedoms, for even minimal periods of time, unquestionably constitutes irreparable injury.” If a criminal defendant had to wait thirty days after his arraignment before he could seek legal counsel so that he would not unduly resist his prosecution? Unconstitutional, of course. See Rothgery v. Gillespie Cnty. (“[C]ounsel must be appointed within a reasonable time after attachment to allow for adequate representation at any critical stage before trial.”). The Second Amendment is no different.

Timothy Tymkovich
Tenth Circuit Judge
August 19, 2025
7-Day “Cooling-Off” Period for Gun Purchases Struck Down by Tenth Circuit Panel – Reason.com

As Justice Thomas said in June of 2015, “Second Amendment rights are no less protected by our Constitution than other rights enumerated in that document.”

I am seeing more and more evidence that the lower courts are getting a clue. It took, metaphorically, a clue by four to get their attention but they are starting to come around.

There is a Better Way and Everyone Wins

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It is said Donald Trump has a near-magical ability to make Democrats do insanely self-destructive things. They’re doing it to themselves. Trump doesn’t have to apply clumsy reverse psychology, their self-imposed Trump Derangement Syndrome and their raging hatred of America and Normal Americans makes them reflexively, loudly and irrationally, oppose anything he says or does and anything they imagine he might be thinking of saying or doing.

In only eight months, we’ve watched Democrats maniacally defend:

*Illegal immigration
*Hamas
*Islamic terrorists in general
*Violent domestic criminals
*Antisemitism
*Pedophiles
*Democrat legislators fleeing votes to “defend democracy”
*Mentally ill men in women’s sports, locker rooms and bathrooms
*Ignoring and damaging the Constitution
*Rampant violent crime in Washington, DC, including “gun violence”

And the list goes on and on.

Mike McDaniel
August 22, 2025
Brady United chooses DC criminals, politicians – American Thinker

I think the problem is that they are emotionally driven. They have bought into all the terrible things they have been told about President Trump and reflexively oppose anything he supposedly is in favor of.

I suspect this is rather common in people. I remember growing up and people would respond in the same sort of manner to anything related to Hitler. Yes, Hitler had primary responsibility the deaths of millions of innocent people. Yes, he deserves to be considered one of the all-time evil people of history. But he gave political support to the Volkswagen Beetle and the Autobahn. It doesn’t reduce the severity of his crimes, but I don’t see the problem with saying those were praiseworthy projects.

The same sort of thing happened to me early 1990s. I was living in Sandpoint Idaho at the time. There was a big deal about something the Aryan Nation wanted to do or was doing locally or in the nearby Hayden Lake area. There was a big meeting of the Sandpoint locals to oppose whatever it was they wanted to do. I went to the meeting.

Various people talked about how terrible the Aryan Nation people were and what they stood for. There were a handful of people from the Aryan Nation group there and wanted to talk. After bit of discussion one of the Aryan Nation people was given a few minutes to say some things. He said they were advocating for equal treatment of white people. For example, there was a case where a black person severely injured (or killed? I don’t remember for certain) a white person and because of the numerous racial epithets used at the time of the attack it was clear it was a racially motivated. But the prosecutors would not go for it and the perp got of far easier than had a white person committed the same crime against a black person.

It was clear to me that by accepting and rectifying the valid points, including letting them talk without a debate about it, they could take a lot of “wind out of their sails.” Without stories to tell of all the discrimination against white people they would have a much more difficult time recruiting new members and probably keeping existing members. That was not the consensus of the general population. “White Supremist bad. Everything they want must be opposed.”, seemed to be the attitude.

It is a something more general than just the three examples of Trump, Hitler, and the Aryan Nations. I see it done by Republican/Conservatives too.

If those examples are not enough to demonstrate the pervasiveness of the phenomena, think about loyalty to sports teams. People get in fights and even riots in opposition to the “other” teams.

The emotional content of belonging to a tribe and opposing competing tribes probably was a huge evolutionary advantage. But that doesn’t mean it is universally good behavior. Sometimes adopting some ideas, customs, technology, or team plays of your most hated enemy is to your advantage.

I believe this failure to accept the opposition has some good ideas is how the Democrats came to this: Democrats facing crisis as more than 2M voters leave party in four years.

By taking a vocal stand on fairly central issues Trump, in effect, “forced” the Democrats into crazy territory. The Democrats did not have to go there. They could have agreed on the issues that made sense, and perhaps even legislatively killed that issue before the election. This would have taken “the wind out of Trump’s sail.” But they are too emotionally driven and had to double down on the crazy view of those issues. The end result was they were left in crazy town while the Republicans went to Washington D.C. Now, the Republicans get to implement their reasonable ideas as well as their crazy ones in questionable ways.

Another example of Democrat craziness in this regard is vehement opposition to “cultural appropriation.” White people singing rap songs is bad? But people of color using technology created by white people, say the iPhone (Steve Jobs), electricity (Thomas Edison, George Westinghouse, and Nikola Telsa), airplanes (the Wright Brothers), and mass-produced cars (Henry Ford) is okay? People are finally starting to realize they are talking crazy talk.

A similar thing happens in engineering with, “Not invented here syndrome.” People have a reasonably good idea and don’t look around to see if they can get an off the shelf implementation of something at least “good enough” if not better. Or don’t want to use code that someone else wrote.

Here is my approach to faster social, political, and technological evolution. Stop, think, and when appropriate adopt the ideas of others. Give credit where credit is due and advance the ball down the field with your adaptation of a good idea. Everyone wins.

Dust in the Dustbin

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Today, March for Our Lives is in disarray. Funding shortfalls and a rift between its board and younger staffers… have strained the organization. And a recently filed federal lawsuit accuses the board of racism and retaliation.

On March 20 of this year, just before the seven-year anniversary of its celebrated rallies, MFOL terminated 13 of its 16 full-time employees.

Firearms Policy Coalition @gunpolicy
Posted on X, August 20, 2025

See also: Inside the Chaos at March for Our Lives.

As I said the other day, our recent progress has to be putting pressure on donations.

At this point MFOLs has to be rendered powerless to cause us any damage. I think it is extremely unlikely they will recover. They are just dust in the dustbin of history.

Trusting the Science

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Before I started researching gun deaths, gun-control policy used to frustrate me. I wished the National Rifle Association would stop blocking common-sense gun-control reforms such as banning assault weapons, restricting silencers, shrinking magazine sizes and all the other measures that could make guns less deadly.

Then, my colleagues and I at FiveThirtyEight spent three months analyzing all 33,000 lives ended by guns each year in the United States, and I wound up frustrated in a whole new way. We looked at what interventions might have saved those people, and the case for the policies I’d lobbied for crumbled when I examined the evidence. The best ideas left standing were narrowly tailored interventions to protect subtypes of potential victims, not broad attempts to limit the lethality of guns.

Leah Libresco
October 3, 2017
Opinion | I used to think gun control was the answer. My research told me otherwise. – The Washington Post

Reality is tough. And when reality contradicts what you firmly believe, it is even harder to see and accept. I have to give Libresco a lot of credit for this.

Peace For Our Time?

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My personal belief is that history shows that this war of aggression, which is part of a wider Putin aspiration to restore the old Russian Empire and achieve dominance in Europe, can only be resolved by a Russian defeat that would lead to real deterrence. But that is not what is on offer.

The next few days and hours will write the future for our children and grandchildren. The future defeat of the West, which is what is coming down the line as the result of a bad peace deal, would not see a repeat of the Holocaust. It would see a new Russian dominated Europe. The people with most to fear would be the blue-haired protesters on our campuses and in our streets, as well as the LGBTQ+ community who would certainly cease to exist. A newly dominant Russia would and could not tolerate such diversity and certainly not any form of dissent.

Tim Collins
Former British Army officer who served with the SAS and as commander of the Royal Irish
August 19, 2025
Putin could never afford to take the Ukrainian land he wants. He must not get it for free

I don’t see Putin accepting any deal that gives him anything less or equal to what he expects to be able to take in the next year.

And if the response of countries like Finland and Sweden (who joined NATA in response to the war) are an accurate assessment of Putin’s intentions, making such a deal will go down in history like Chamberlain’s “Peace for our time” deal did.

Prepare appropriately.

I’m aggressively pushing for the completion of my underground bunker in Idaho.

A Good Shoot

If there is such a thing as a good shoot, it is really just one of the least bad outcomes, this is one of them:

An Illinois mother shot and killed a man accused of breaking into her home at night, police say.

The break-in happened at about 10:30 p.m. Friday, Aug. 15, the Joliet Police Department said in a news release.

According to police, the woman heard what sounded like someone forcing their way into her home, so she hid in an upstairs bedroom closet with her baby, and armed herself with a gun.

When the man went into the bedroom, she opened fire, hitting him in the head, police said.

Officers arrived to find the man “unresponsive,” and he was confirmed dead at the scene, according to the department.

The man was wearing gloves and had a screwdriver, police said, adding that there were “signs of forced entry.” The woman told police she didn’t know the man.

Even with the early retirement, someone made a very poor career choice that night.

Another Brick in the Wall

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Cooling-off periods do not fit into any historically grounded exceptions to the right to keep and bear arms, and burden conduct within the Second Amendment’s scope. We conclude that New Mexico’s Waiting Period Act is likely an unconstitutional burden on the Second Amendment rights of its citizens.

Timothy Tymkovich
US federal appellate judge for the 10th Circuit
August 19, 2025
Federal Appeals Court blocks New Mexico’s 7-Day gun purchase waiting period

It is a small step. But the steps add up.

The anti-gun people have to be getting very depressed. Not just because of the lost ground but because this is going to reduce donations. Why donate money when progress toward a full gun ban is completely blocked?

On the other hand, our side should be donating money to the groups most effective in the courts. The momentum is on our side. Let’s push this as fast as we practically can.

Number 30 to Help Bury the Racist Roots

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Permitting laws are nothing less than a burdensome tax on law-abiding citizens who wish to self-defend. Having North Carolina become the 30th permitless carry state is something these lawmakers should be proud of. We appreciate Representative Penny’s leadership in committing to an override, and we salute all the other legislators who are resolved to end a policy that’s deeply rooted in a racist past.

Alan Gottlieb
CCRKBA Chairman
August 18, 2025
CCRKBA CELEBRATES PROGRESS IN NORTH CAROLINA ON PERMITLESS CARRY | Citizens Committee For The Right To Keep And Bear Arms

Never forget the racist history of gun control:

STI Benefits to Monogamous Relationships

While I wanted to respond with this information to a comment it is much better as a post.

Via Copilot:

StudySample SizeRelationship Type% Reporting STI DiagnosisNotable Insights
Lehmiller et al., 2015 – Journal of Sexual Medicine556CNM18.3%CNM participants reported more condom use and STI testing than monogamous ones.
Monogamous17.6%Nearly 25% of monogamous participants reported infidelity, often without protection.
2012 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (CDC)2,270CNM (Open Relationships)14.0%Higher condom use for anal sex and more frequent testing.
Non-consensual Non-monogamy22.0%Highest STI risk due to secrecy and lack of protection.
Monogamous13.0%Lower reported STI rates, but testing frequency was also lower.

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CNM means “consensual non-monogamy”

Copilot sums the studies up with:

  • CNM relationships show comparable or slightly higher STI diagnosis rates, but this is offset by greater testing and safer sex practices.
  • The highest STI risk is found in relationships with non-consensual infidelity, not CNM.
  • Monogamous individuals may be lulled into a false sense of security, especially when testing is infrequent or infidelity is hidden.

It isn’t as clearly stated as it could be, but it because of the lower testing rates in the monogamous relationships the actual STI rates may be higher than reported in the studies. Hence, if anything, the STI benefits, already near zero, to monogamous relationship may be overstated by the studies.

Ironically, if someone insists STI avoidance is the reason of monogamous relationships if they really wanted to decrease the risk they should be in a CNM relationship or, best of all, give up sex.

This reminds me of the Robert Heinlein quote:

If “everybody knows” such-and-such, then it ain’t so, by at least ten thousand to one.

And, of course, there is the stubborn belief that gun control makes people safer when the facts indicate More Guns, Less Crime.

Alternate Reality

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A lot of people have opinions like:

  • no man would ever seriously date a whore
  • promiscuous people have relationships that fall apart
  • this is setting everybody else for so much drama
  • slutty people are secretly suppressing their actual hatred of the lifestyle etc.

This all feels so bizarre to me. I live in a culture where none of the ‘slutty people are unhappy and failing at relationships” thing is true – or rather, not moreso than it is in non-slutty cultures. It seems like it’s hard for people to envision how a life might work where there’s a high contingent of happy, slutty people.

So to help visualize, here’s some instances from the lives of myself and people I know. Names are changed, and some details are slightly altered to preserve anonymity.

  • We know a lot of each other’s fetishes. “I’ve been horny lately,” says a girlfriend of mine. “Oh,” says the girl groupchat, “I’d recommend trying to bang Mike. He’s really into this thing you’re into.” But another girl chimes in – “Actually I’m not sure, Mike is definitely into x but I think you’re actually more into y, and it might not work out. Worth trying, though!
  • I’m hanging out with a group of friends, which includes Bob and Alice, who are married. Bob and Alice are getting ready to try to conceive a baby; they’ve moved into a group house with other soon-to-be parents for communal support, we’ve discussed birth control methods with Alice and how her sexual behavior is going to change once she enters the ‘active conception attempts’ phase.At one point someone mentions how big Bob’s dick is. I’ve had sex with Bob, and I agree that it’s big – I say that whenever Bob approaches at orgies, the other guys tell me ‘oh you’re in for it now’. Most of the other women there have also had sex with Bob. Alice says something about how her husband’s dick is big but she didn’t realize it was that big, and then we tease her about having high standards for dick sizes. We discuss the one other person at an orgy who had an even bigger dick – what’s his name – someone remembers. We agree that it was probably girthier but not necessarily longer.
  • A friend of mine is a mega slut, with bodycount in the multiple hundreds. She married a very successful guy, spent the marriage helping her husband get laid and having threesomes, and now has a few young kids.
  • I’m hanging out in a group of friends and their friends and I overhear someone saying “well you guys might find this weird but I’m actually monogamous”
  • My boyfriend is having a girl he’s dating over. He’s mentioned he’d be interested in banging her casually in the open, and I say sure. She’s sitting on the couch with us, and he starts having sex with her in front of me (with her consent). It looks nice so I ask the girl if she’d like me to take photos of them. She says no. About ten minutes later (still in the middle of getting railed on the couch) she says “actually I changed my mind, photos would be nice”. I’m like daw ok, and I get a lot of photos of them having kinky sex. I text them to her afterwards.
  • “I was at Susan’s garden party, sheepishly admitting to just having had sneaky sex with someone in the closet. Susan overheard and said “wait you should fuck my husband!” and went over to get him.”

Aella
June 25, 2025
Anecdotes From The Slutcloud – by Aella – Knowingless

I did not post the entire set of examples. This is just a sample.

Some people live in an alternate reality. And it could be someone in the same room with you without you knowing. In some ways, this is totally bizarre to me.

Is there some psychological dysfunction involved? If so, which reality is dysfunctional? Is it possible to even test for dysfunction? How would you create a test that was not biased in favor of the test creator?

Perhaps it is “simply” a culture difference with a different set of tradeoffs being made. But again, how do you determine which culture is best for society? Or is it something that just doesn’t matter, like people having different hobbies? It maybe it does not have any significant social impact, and it would be inappropriate to apply social pressure to conform to one cultural norm over the other.

It is so mind twisting for me that I find it to be a fascinating puzzle.