Category Archives: Sex

This tends toward the academic rather than the erotic. But not entirely.

Why females are so noisy during sex

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In case you ever wondered.

Scientists have more data and another hypothesis as to why female primates make noise during sex:

Female chimps often cry out during sex to attract nearby males, but they keep quiet when other females are around so they don’t alert their competition, a new study finds.

The function of copulation calls made by female primates (a group that includes lemurs, monkeys, and apes, such as humans and chimpanzees, our closest relatives) has been debated for years.

Interesting… so if your female partner is noisy during sex it means she wants more males to join in the fun. I’ll bet that is going to make for some interesting pillow talk.

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Jenny Block

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A few months ago I made something I received via a Google alert on sex my QOTD because it applied to not only to sex but to many other things as well. Ms. Block had her own Google alert, noticed my post, and commented on my post. Cool!

I sent her an email thanking her for stopping by for a visit and I ended up on her email list for notifications of things such as her book (Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage) signing yesterday afternoon in Seattle. I decided to go because the kids were attending a play (a musical–I seldom like musicals) and the Father’s Day activities weren’t happening until the evening. Barb was unavailable being at work in Moscow Idaho so I went alone.

I found Ms. Block to be very energetic, funny, and quick witted. It was a real pleasure to hear her talk. I added a few comments which seemed to be well accepted. One was in regard to a book that discussed sex and the evolution of women. Here is more information on that book, Sex Time and Power. This was a great book. A lot of it was speculation which has the high probability of being wrong but it was very intriguing speculation.

Some links to Ms. Block’s web presence:

http://www.open-marriage.blogspot.com/
http://www.jennyonthepage.com/

She also writes on the blog The Huffington Post such as this post.

I’ve added her blog to my blogroll but it appears she is only blogging to promote her books and other writings and not so much about the psychology and sociology of sex in our society which is more of my interest. But at least I will get links to that sort of material.

Math lesson

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Some people are “math challenged”. I tend to agree with Heinlein on the topic but regardless I am of the opinion that nearly all people can learn simple arithmetic if they are given the lesson in practical everyday terms. One such lesson came to my attention via email and I have duplicated it below:

To My Dear Wife,

You will surely understand that I have certain needs that you, being 54 years old, can no longer satisfy. I am very happy with you & I value you as a good wife. Therefore, after reading this letter, I hope that you will not wrongly interpret the fact that I will be spending the evening with my 18 year old secretary at the Comfort Inn Hotel.

Please don’t be upset – I shall be home before midnight.

When the man came home late that night, he found the following letter on the dining room table:

My Dear Husband,

I received your letter and thank you for your honesty about my being 54 years old. I would like to take this opportunity to remind you that you are also 54 years old. As you know, I am a Math teacher at our local college. I would like to inform you that while you read this, I will be at the Marriott Hotel with Michael, one of my students, who is also on the tennis team. He is young, virile, and like your secretary, is 18 years old. As a successful businessman who has an excellent knowledge of Math, you will understand although it may appear that we are in the same situation, there is one mathematical difference: 18 goes into 54 a lot more times than 54 goes into 18.

Therefore, I will not be home until sometime tomorrow!

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Gun and sex education

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I’ve thought about making this comparison for quite some time but never got around to it. Tech Paladin does the topic justice.

Experiments with Dr. Joe’s cure

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Via an email from Kevin I receive a this link about a couple of books. One book is about a couple that attempts to have sex for 100 consecutive days and another that attempts to go for 365 days straight. While interesting I’m disappointed they didn’t succeed in their efforts and they basically gave up after they past their goal lines:

Today, the Browns report they have sex approximately six times a month, or double their frequency before their adventure. The Mullers decline to discuss their habits, except to say that they fall well within the national average. And, Brad said, the sex is better. “It made it much easier to be open to the idea, more spontaneous,” he said, “So you don’t go back to that always gaming for it and always trying to get out of it.”

Wimps.

A friend of mine claims it’s a rare day when he didn’t have sex once in the morning and once at night with his various girl friends, as they came and went, and now with his wife.

Barb and I are somewhat restricted by our distance from each other but still, on a monthly basis, we easily surpass the Browns and probably the Mullers.

Dr. Joe wonders if they are getting sufficient treatments to even maintain their present health. I would recommend at least doubling the dosage.

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T.V. show reviews

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I don’t have a T.V. in my Seattle area bunker so the only shows I watch are DVD sci-fi stuff with James (we just started the third season of Farscape).

With Barb I watch DVDs/on-line stuff like:

  • Bones She is extremely smart, likes guns, and is hyper-rational–where was Temperance when I was a freshman in college and looking for a mate?
  • Columbo He’s like a puppy dog wagging his tail and digging holes in the yard–but what the murders don’t know is that he’s placing land mines (from the episode “How to Dial a Murder”).
  • Medium Just accept the premise and enjoy the show.

Barb and I might have to add Swingtown to our list of things to watch while in bed (together).

The following review came to me from someone who picked it up from a email list they subscribe to. This was in response to a comment where someone said they had never been to a party that they didn’t know what was going on before they arrived.

I thought it did a pretty fair job of portraying reality without being hostile to swingers. The biggest thing I noticed was that, as with nearly all Hollywood, the time scale was sped up dramatically. From the time a newbie couple was told by people they had just met they were swingers until they decided to participate there would be a lot more time and talking involved rather than just a few glances and walking off to the back bedroom with the experienced couple.

I do know of a case where a couple had monthly parties and the next door neighbors asked why they were never invited. The hosting couple told them to just show up next time–without telling them the nature of the party. The neighbors did show up, figured things out after a half hour or so and left–never to ask about attending again. So, I know it does happen.

The bottom line is I think the writers know a lot about swinging. I think they either have been involved or did a lot of research with people who are or have been involved. I think in order to make the show interesting they will, of necessity, have to introduce stress of some sort into the characters and situations. In the pilot they introduced characters who will enable them to do that. The reality of swinging is not the utopia we would like it to be (neither is monogamy or anything else). The writers of the show will have to exaggerate reality some and create conflicts to make things interesting. I believe it’s possible they can do this without making swingers out to be immoral perverts and I think they have made a good first step toward that goal. I’m looking forward to the next episode.

Another hazard of cellphones

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Man catches girlfriend’s sex romp on mobile call:

The court was told that the girl named Toni Milton sat on her cell phone by mistake while having sex with her old flame, and thereby unknowingly dialled the number of Neil O’Brien.

She came to know about the blunder only when she heard the muffled sounds of O’Brien.

Not knowing who was on the other side, she said “Hello”, and heard O’Brien shouting in rage.

“I take it we’re finished, then?” British tabloid The Sun quoted O’Brien as shouting.

Angered by what his girlfriend had done, O’Brien drove 15 miles to her home, beat her up in her bedroom and smashed up her possessions.

Just wait until your cell phone GPS can be queried remotely and without your permission.

Links for the bloggers I met

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While at the NRA Convention there were numerous times when someone say, “I once made about post about that.” Most of the time others would say, “Yeah! I remember that.” Occasionally someone would say, “I must have missed that. Could you bring me up to speed?”

This is for those times when people missed one of my posts.

For Kevin, Sebastian, and Bitter on Sunday night when we were talking about powdered sugar and coffee creamer in regards to A Security Theater. Check out the video link.

Photo below by Rob Allen (see this post of his for more pictures from Friday evening) which was taken within a few minutes of the discussion:


Left front and going clockwise: Jeff, Kevin, Joe, Say Uncle.

We were talking about endangered species and I mentioned the post I made about Habitat destruction leads to extinction. That got a laugh. But then we nearly fell out of our booth laughing as Kevin described it as deforestation.

Update: Late last Friday, the night we are not to blog about, someone who shall remain nameless mentioned a problem with insomnia. This same someone at a different time acknowledged reading about Dr. Joe’s cure for everything. But they apparently didn’t make the connection that their insomnia was a prime candidate for a treatment with Dr. Joe’s cure. I was tempted to make the connection for them but thought it would be inappropriate “to go there” in the given circumstances.

More evidence of the efficacy of Dr. Joe’s cure

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Via Scott K. we have this research confirming Dr. Joe’s cure for everything:

Researchers from the Cancer Council of Victoria found that men who masturbated more than five times each week were one-third less likely to develop the cancer.

Quote of the day–Al Capone

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When I sell liquor, it’s called bootlegging; when my patrons serve it on Lake Shore Drive, its called hospitality.

Al Capone
[I’m reminded of this by the apparent suicide of the “D.C. Madam” Deborah Jeane Palfrey. How sad that a provider of a desired service is convicted of a victimless crime and ends up dead. The real criminals are those that created and enforced such a law.–Joe]

Face reading

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This study raises more questions than it give answers. I’m not disputing the results. In fact I have reason to believe it is accurate. But what could possibly be the clues that reveals such details about sexual intent?

Looking for love or lust? Your face gives it away Facial features tell if someone wants commitment or casual sex, study says

It’s no use being coy. If you’re looking for a fling, it might just be written all over your face.

A new study by U.K. researchers found that you can tell just by looking at someone’s face whether they’re interested in casual sex or long-term commitment. And, not surprisingly, women tend to be more attracted to the guys who look like true boyfriend material, while men are drawn to faces that seem to say “one-night stand,” found the study, published Tuesday in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior.

In a similar vein two different lesbian friends of mine claimed they have excellent “Gaydar”. Some simple tests indicate that in fact they were able to determine sexual orientation with very little contact with the people in question. This including their laughing at me when asked if I was gay. Apparently I am so blatantly heterosexual that I couldn’t fool anyone even if I wanted to.

Other experiences of mine, which would take too much time to explain, resulted in similar results.

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Sex for resources

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It’s not prostitution. It’s nuptial gifts.

We are just animals with a more developed brain. The low level wiring isn’t all that much different.

Just like penguins and other primates, people trade sex for resources:

Female penguins mate with males who bring them pebbles to build egg nests. Hummingbirds mate to gain access to the most productive flowers guarded by larger males.

New research shows that even affluent college students who don’t need resources will still attempt to trade sexual currency for provisions, said Daniel Kruger, research scientist at the University of Michigan School of Public Health.

The exchange of resources for sex—referred to by scientists as nuptial gifts—has occurred throughout history in many species, including humans, Kruger said. The male of the species offers protection and resources to the female and offspring in exchange for reproductive rights. For example, an arranged marriage can be considered a contract to trade resources.

However, the recent findings suggest that such behaviors are hard wired, and persist no matter how much wealth, resources or security that people obtain.

“It’s remarkable to find these patterns in the students in the study,” Kruger said. “We have seen many examples where people do this out of necessity, but we still see these tendencies in people who are already well provided for.”

I think Barb said she wanted some chores done around the house. Would that be considered an exchange of services?

I’ll only do this once

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I’ve been thinking about this for a long time and Sunday while waiting for the ferry to cross over to the island to visit Mr. Completely and Keewee I made my decision. The event that confirmed everything was the dog sniffing for explosives around the vehicles waiting for the ferry:

There were two things that really struck me about this. 1) The dog didn’t take any particular interest in my car even though I had been making explosives and driving that car just a week earlier. No special precautions on cleanliness and the dog didn’t hit on us. I also had several hundred rounds of ammunition in the trunk. Therefore the dog and all the WSP officers standing around are just more Security Theater. 2) Why isn’t this considered an illegal search? We were on public roads doing nothing suspicious and we get searched.

After a few minutes of thought I realized the game I had been playing was over. For years I have pushing for restoring our freedom and yet we have suffered more and more infringements. There is always some “justification” for the infringement. Before 9-11 it was because of crime and recreational drug use. Now it’s the threat of terrorism. Nearly all of the infringements are mere theater in regards to addressing the problems they claim to be concerned about yet they adversely affect the ordinary citizen.

With this realization I concluded I have been playing the game wrong. Therefore I have decided to change sides. From this moment forward I am on the side of Islam. Yes, I know, for the most part they are a bunch of losers. But I have my reasons:

  • I think I can make a major contribution to turning their loser ways around.
    • I have thousands of pounds of explosives materials available for immediate use.
    • I have long range rifle experience and equipment.
    • I have computer security expertise.
    • I have extensive engineering experience.
  • The U.S. Constitution is dead. It was killed by neglect years ago and there is no hope for its resurrection. This great hope for freedom has died and pretending otherwise is a fraud.
  • If we can’t have freedom then the next best thing is peace through uniformity of belief. Islam is the best hope for that.
  • I’m getting older and so is Barb. Those 72 virgins for eternity are looking better and better.

I know I am handicapping myself by making this public announcement but I feel morally obligated to tell my friends and family the truth. I don’t play the part of secret traitor well–I have to look at my face in the mirror each morning. As Winston Churchill once said in regards to formal declarations of war, “When you have to kill a man it costs nothing to be polite.”

My apologies to Uncle and others who (correctly at the time) said, “I’m glad he’s one of the good guys.” Things change and perhaps you should too.

When Barb left this morning she didn’t know. It was just returning to work in Idaho as she does every other week after spending the last several days with me. But that was the end of a 34 year run we had. Our first date was in March of 1974. This was a picture I took of her on that date, a walk along Dworshak Lake:

It was nice but she was only a virgin once. She just can’t compete with 72 virgins for eternity.

You might ask, “What are you going to do?” and that’s a fair question. I figure I have at best a few months before I am caught and probably killed but I am certain I can make a significant impact in that time frame. Think for a moment about how long a city could last if all the bridges, roads, water, and electricity were cut off with the repair crews taking sniper fire from 1000 yards away. Draw a circle with a radius of 1000 yards around each of the severed connections and imagine trying to protect the crews from someone, someplace in that area. And as law enforcement is searching for me there they won’t really know if I am there are not. I could be several hundred miles away getting ready to sever another city from food, water, and power. You don’t need nuclear, biological, or chemical weapons to create mass destruction. By creating the appropriate circumstances you can cause the delicate fabric of society to collapse and let nature do the rest.

Ry and I have observed it’s rare that a single person can kill more than 200 people before being stopped. It is my ambition to set a record in the 10s of thousands and perhaps higher. I want my name to be in the history books as a demonstration of just what one determined person can do.

Allahu Akbar!

Quote of the day–Jenny Block

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The problem, it seems to me, is this. People are pack animals and they want — need — approval from the herd. So, forcing this one-size-fits-not-nearly-everyone way of life down everyone’s throat is detrimental to everyone. Living a life that doesn’t fit is miserable and that misery plays out in unhappy ways in people’s lives.

Jenny Block
March 27, 2008
Open Relationships: What the World Already Has
[The pack animal observation applies to so many things that bug me about people. It is a huge component of the attacks on freedom. From gay rights and gun control to religious intolerance you will find this urge to conform and to enforce conformity playing a big part.–Joe]

Summarizing the benefits of Dr. Joe’s prescription

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Dr. Joe’s cure for everything for over 30 years is getting more attention. The details are here, but the overview is:

  1. Sex Relieves Stress
  2. Sex Boosts Immunity
  3. Sex Burns Calories
  4. Sex Improves Cardiovascular Health
  5. Sex Boosts Self-Esteem
  6. Sex Improves Intimacy
  7. Sex Reduces Pain
  8. Sex Reduces Prostate Cancer Risk
  9. Sex Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles
  10. Sex Helps You Sleep Better
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Self medication

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I remember this sad woman that lived in the same condominium complex as Barb and I who each weekend seemed to have a different guy leaving her place in the early morning. She never seemed happy and we always figured it was self esteem problem and the pond scum she brought home didn’t make the situation any better. Now some researchers have some data on women, depression, and sex. I wonder if the researchers investigated the self-esteem issue and if the “self medication” aspects of using sex for treating their depression benefited them in the long term. And of course they should also explore which, if any, was cause and which was effect. Or was it just correlation?

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Caught with my hand down her shirt

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I sort of remember that picture being taken now–and thinking, “No one will really notice, will they?” (notice the smirk on my face). Of course I have had my hand down her shirt so often for the last 30+ years that by now Barb is almost oblivious to it.

Mr. Completely politely ignores it and tells us about the other joys of attending the Gun Blogger Rendezvous and urges you to sign up for the next one.

As I have been saying for over 30 years

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Dr. Joe is further validated:

LONDON: A steamy sex session in the morning can keep you in good health, say British researchers.

According to a research from Queen’s University in Belfast, a good morning session at least three times a week, decreases the risk of heart attack or stroke by half and a regular session improves circulation, thereby reducing blood pressure.

According to a study in New Scientist, a steamy session twice a week enhances IgA, an antibody that provides protection against microbes that multiply in body secretions, reports the ‘Sun’. Morning sex also helps in alleviating arthritis and migraine. It burns around 300 calories an hour that simultaneously diminishes the risk of developing diabetes.

Moreover, an American study involving 300 sexually active women whose partners did not use condoms revealed that they were less prone to depression.

Sex increases the production of testosterone that provides stronger bones and muscles thus helping to stave off osteoporosis.

A good morning session can make the hair shine and skin glow by raising the output of oestrogen and other hormones which are associated with it.

According to Yale School of Medicine researchers, having morning sex can aid in averting endometriosis, a condition where the tissue that normally lines the uterus, grows in other parts of the pelvis.

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Mayflower Madam

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I keep wondering if disgraced New York Governer and anti-gun bigot Spitzer was aware of the book Mayflower Madam when he booked a room at this particular hotel:

As recently as this past Valentine’s Day, Feb. 13, Spitzer, who officials say is identified in a federal complaint as “Client 9,” arranged for a prostitute “Kristen” to meet him in Washington, D.C.

The woman met Client 9 at the Mayflower Hotel, room 871, “for her tryst,” according to the complaint.

The book was a true story and a very good one. If he hasn’t read it already maybe he’ll have time while he is in prison.

Correlation is not causation

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If I were a peer reviewing this piece of work I would ask the “researcher”, “Please repeat after me, ‘correlation is not causation’. Again, ‘correlation is not causation’. Good, keep doing that until you can remember it when you are writing your papers.”

It looks to me like this guy has staked his career on something and is looking for evidence to support his hypothesis. And of course if that is all you are looking for and you ignore contradictory evidence you can probably convince yourself your hypothesis is valid.

Here is a sample of his conclusions:

Straus analyzed the results of four studies and found that spanking and other corporal punishment by parents is associated with an increased probability of three sexual problems as a teen or adult:
• Verbally and physically coercing a dating partner to have sex.
• Risky sex such as premarital sex without a condom.
• Masochistic sex such as being aroused by being spanked when having sex.

“These results, together with the results of more than 100 other studies, suggest that spanking is one of the roots of relationship violence and mental health problems. Because there is 93 percent agreement between studies that investigated harmful side effects of spanking, and because over 90 percent of U.S. parents spank toddlers, the potential benefits for prevention of sexual and relationship violence is large,” Straus says.

I haven’t read all his papers so it’s possible he has considered an alternate hypothesis but I could find no evidence of that in the web pages I viewed this morning. The alternate hypothesis that is just “screaming at me” is that children with behavioral problems are more likely to behavioral problems as adults. And if they have more behavioral problems as children then they are more likely to get spanked.