Category Archives: Alternate Reality

Realistically Throwing Orgies

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When ppl imagine dating me (a promiscuous poly woman) I think they probably are imagining me leaving them at home while I go off and get railed.

But realistically it also includes me recommending u to other girls and throwing orgies that I invite you to. It’s hot when u get laid.

Aella @Aella_Girl
Posted on Twitter, February 14, 2023

There are alternate realities that one would think are impractical or even impossible. Yet, the evidence seems convincing they do exist and are at least somewhat practical.

STI Benefits to Monogamous Relationships

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While I wanted to respond with this information to a comment it is much better as a post.

Via Copilot:

StudySample SizeRelationship Type% Reporting STI DiagnosisNotable Insights
Lehmiller et al., 2015 – Journal of Sexual Medicine556CNM18.3%CNM participants reported more condom use and STI testing than monogamous ones.
Monogamous17.6%Nearly 25% of monogamous participants reported infidelity, often without protection.
2012 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (CDC)2,270CNM (Open Relationships)14.0%Higher condom use for anal sex and more frequent testing.
Non-consensual Non-monogamy22.0%Highest STI risk due to secrecy and lack of protection.
Monogamous13.0%Lower reported STI rates, but testing frequency was also lower.

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CNM means “consensual non-monogamy”

Copilot sums the studies up with:

  • CNM relationships show comparable or slightly higher STI diagnosis rates, but this is offset by greater testing and safer sex practices.
  • The highest STI risk is found in relationships with non-consensual infidelity, not CNM.
  • Monogamous individuals may be lulled into a false sense of security, especially when testing is infrequent or infidelity is hidden.

It isn’t as clearly stated as it could be, but it because of the lower testing rates in the monogamous relationships the actual STI rates may be higher than reported in the studies. Hence, if anything, the STI benefits, already near zero, to monogamous relationship may be overstated by the studies.

Ironically, if someone insists STI avoidance is the reason of monogamous relationships if they really wanted to decrease the risk they should be in a CNM relationship or, best of all, give up sex.

This reminds me of the Robert Heinlein quote:

If “everybody knows” such-and-such, then it ain’t so, by at least ten thousand to one.

And, of course, there is the stubborn belief that gun control makes people safer when the facts indicate More Guns, Less Crime.

Alternate Reality

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A lot of people have opinions like:

  • no man would ever seriously date a whore
  • promiscuous people have relationships that fall apart
  • this is setting everybody else for so much drama
  • slutty people are secretly suppressing their actual hatred of the lifestyle etc.

This all feels so bizarre to me. I live in a culture where none of the ‘slutty people are unhappy and failing at relationships” thing is true – or rather, not moreso than it is in non-slutty cultures. It seems like it’s hard for people to envision how a life might work where there’s a high contingent of happy, slutty people.

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So to help visualize, here’s some instances from the lives of myself and people I know. Names are changed, and some details are slightly altered to preserve anonymity.

  • We know a lot of each other’s fetishes. “I’ve been horny lately,” says a girlfriend of mine. “Oh,” says the girl groupchat, “I’d recommend trying to bang Mike. He’s really into this thing you’re into.” But another girl chimes in – “Actually I’m not sure, Mike is definitely into x but I think you’re actually more into y, and it might not work out. Worth trying, though!
  • I’m hanging out with a group of friends, which includes Bob and Alice, who are married. Bob and Alice are getting ready to try to conceive a baby; they’ve moved into a group house with other soon-to-be parents for communal support, we’ve discussed birth control methods with Alice and how her sexual behavior is going to change once she enters the ‘active conception attempts’ phase.At one point someone mentions how big Bob’s dick is. I’ve had sex with Bob, and I agree that it’s big – I say that whenever Bob approaches at orgies, the other guys tell me ‘oh you’re in for it now’. Most of the other women there have also had sex with Bob. Alice says something about how her husband’s dick is big but she didn’t realize it was that big, and then we tease her about having high standards for dick sizes. We discuss the one other person at an orgy who had an even bigger dick – what’s his name – someone remembers. We agree that it was probably girthier but not necessarily longer.
  • A friend of mine is a mega slut, with bodycount in the multiple hundreds. She married a very successful guy, spent the marriage helping her husband get laid and having threesomes, and now has a few young kids.
  • I’m hanging out in a group of friends and their friends and I overhear someone saying “well you guys might find this weird but I’m actually monogamous”
  • My boyfriend is having a girl he’s dating over. He’s mentioned he’d be interested in banging her casually in the open, and I say sure. She’s sitting on the couch with us, and he starts having sex with her in front of me (with her consent). It looks nice so I ask the girl if she’d like me to take photos of them. She says no. About ten minutes later (still in the middle of getting railed on the couch) she says “actually I changed my mind, photos would be nice”. I’m like daw ok, and I get a lot of photos of them having kinky sex. I text them to her afterwards.
  • “I was at Susan’s garden party, sheepishly admitting to just having had sneaky sex with someone in the closet. Susan overheard and said “wait you should fuck my husband!” and went over to get him.”

Aella
June 25, 2025
Anecdotes From The Slutcloud – by Aella – Knowingless

I did not post the entire set of examples. This is just a sample.

Some people live in an alternate reality. And it could be someone in the same room with you without you knowing. In some ways, this is totally bizarre to me.

Is there some psychological dysfunction involved? If so, which reality is dysfunctional? Is it possible to even test for dysfunction? How would you create a test that was not biased in favor of the test creator?

Perhaps it is “simply” a culture difference with a different set of tradeoffs being made. But again, how do you determine which culture is best for society? Or is it something that just doesn’t matter, like people having different hobbies? It maybe it does not have any significant social impact, and it would be inappropriate to apply social pressure to conform to one cultural norm over the other.

It is so mind twisting for me that I find it to be a fascinating puzzle.

Knife Crime

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When I was Director of Public Prosecutions, I saw first-hand how knife crime devastates families.

My Plan for Change is turning the tide:

Knife robberies down in the hardest-hit areas.

Over 1,000 weapons taken off our streets in July.

And from today, ninja swords are banned.

Keir Starmer @Keir_Starmer
Prime Minister of England
Posted on X, August 1, 2025

In his alternate reality he can say this without a hint of sarcasm, irony, or concern that he is inflicting a severe blow to basic human rights.

This could have been the path we went down. And if we don’t keep up the pressure, it still could be our path.

Alternate Realities and Bias

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Thirteen years ago, I wrote a blog post claiming that if someone in a monogamous relationship offers me sex, it’s not my responsibility to turn them down because they made a foolish promise to someone else. That’s between them, and I don’t think it’s my job to enforce their promises that had nothing to do with me. Predictably, I did not get a lot of support. Even in sex-positive communities, that sort of thing is frowned upon. Polyamorous communities, in particular, engage in a kind of respectability politics where everyone goes out of their way to talk about how great monogamy is and how we’re no threat to it at all, mostly as a bid for acceptance. So it was no surprise when, this morning, I asked the following question on Twitter:

A married couple has both agreed to strict monogamy. Idk why. Wife comes to me and asks me to give her oral sex, and not to tell Husband. I do it (and also encourage her to tell Husband). What I’ve done is:

The choices were very bad, kinda bad, not bad, and good. Over 80% said very or kinda bad. Less than 5% said good. When I’ve discussed this in the past, I’ve argued that people react this way because, even in nonmonogamous communities, we can’t shake the idea that monogamy is sacred. We give it a special privilege in our society, even though I think, for most couples, strict monogamy is outdated and harmful. A lot of people disagree with that as well, and claim that no no no, it’s not that monogamy is important, it’s that any agreements between couples are important, and we should respect and support all of them. I think that’s bullshit, so Last week, I asked Twitter the exact same question, but with one detail changed:

A married couple has both agreed that neither will give to charity. Idk why. Wife comes to me and hands me $1,000 cash, and says please send it to the Against Malaria Foundation, and not to tell Husband. I do it (and also encourage her to tell Husband).

The responses were reversed. Less than 30% said it was bad. 36% said it was actively good, and another 36% said not bad. These results strongly reinforce my view that most people’s discomfort with being, as they say, an “accomplice to cheating,” has little to do with holding all agreements sacred and everything to do with holding monogamy sacred.

Look, I have no problem with your monogamy agreement. Your kink is not my kind and that’s ok. I want you to make whatever agreements you want between yourself and any partners who are into it. But I am not in charge of enforcement. If you have a trad relationship and your wife isn’t supposed to be alone in a room with another man, I’m not going to leave the room if she walks in and strikes up a conversation. If you have a power exchange kink, and your wife isn’t allowed to earn money, I don’t recognize your authority to tell me I can’t hire her as my babysitter. So if your particular brand of power exchange involves giving each other control over your sexuality, that’s great for you! But I, personally, don’t value monogamy. I think it’s a mistake for most couples. And I think it’s a huge mistake to embrace it on a society-wide level. So I’m not going to take responsibility for enforcing an agreement that I don’t have positive feelings about.

If you disagree, that’s great, and I’m happy to talk about it. But I’m guessing your disagreement is about the value of monogamy, not about whether third parties should be expected to enforce relationship agreements in general. So let’s talk about the actual disagreement.

Wes, the Dadliest Catch @wfenza
Posted on X, July 15, 2025

I find this absolutely fascinating!

It points out a bias in people’s thinking that, for people with relatively similar world views, cannot see.

People cannot imagine they have a bias. But biases do exist. They are just blind to them. And it takes something akin to someone from an alternate reality to see them.

I have sort of a back log of alternate reality things I want to post about, and this is a perfect introduction to that. Here is a quick overview of what I have in mind.

For people who have been to Boomershoot, it is an alternate reality to anti-gun people living is a big city. Even most people who live in the city. Out in the middle of nowhere where the nearest stop sign is two miles away and the nearest stop light is 40 miles away there are bunch of people using KitchenAid mixers to create, literally, a ton of explosives. Then a bunch more people all start shooting at hundreds of boxes each filled with explosives.

A typical USPSA or other action shooting match is composed of dozens of people with guns strapped and tons of ammo on their belt running around and shooting at targets at insane speeds. The anti-gun people must have trouble even envisioning this in the abstract. And what are their thoughts on this? Do they imagine anything than these must be terrorists in training? Or perhaps next week’s active shooters?

Once you sort of have your mind around the concept, here is the twist. What can we do with this information?

In the cyber security world, we are constantly taught to beware of biases. What does some unusual network traffic mean? Is it just a year end upload of reports to the parent company? Or is it exfiltration of sensitive financial information to the dark web?

The fresh out of school analyst may have a bias toward hitting the big red button for the klaxon. After being on the job for a few months and being embarrassed a few time by the false alarms they may have a bias toward assuming it just something normal they have seen before.

When accounts payable gets an invoice, their natural instinct is to pay it just like the other thousand invoices they got in the last year. They have a bias toward normalcy.

The bad guys are aware of and exploit biases. The highly skilled good guys also are aware of and take advantage of biases in the bad guy thinking. I will not be giving examples of that.

Similar things happen in the engineering world. Something common place in one domain can be used to solve problems in a different domain because the people in the second domain have been doing things “the way we have always done them.” They cannot see what is blindingly obvious to someone from the first domain.

What about the photon versus wave properties of light? Only knowing one domain, how would you get your mind around the other property?

I have lots and lots of examples. I look forward to sharing them with you. Of course, you will probably end up thinking I’m even weirder and geekier than you already think I am.