There’s probably some truth to this

Via Ivermectin and Artemisinin @triplecrown777:

One thing people need to understand about extremely kind, nice, and loving people, is that their other side is jus as extreme. It’s the hell they survive that makes them gentle. Don’t mistake their self-control for weakness. The beast in them is sleeping, not dead.

A couple decades ago a coworker from India told me it was well known and taught in the psych classes in his country the person most likely to kill you wasn’t the person easy to anger. Those types calmed down just as quickly and easily as they angered. The person that was always calm, gentle, and soft spoken was very difficult to make angry. But when they did get angry they would kill you even if it was days or weeks later.

My hypothesis for this is that the person who is frequently angry has learned to manage that state of mind from 10s of thousands of incidents growing up. One the other hand, the cool, quiet, gentle type, has hold experiences with extreme feelings of anger which number in the dozens and they are more likely to be overwhelmed by the emotions.

There may be a lesson to be learned here about rioters, emotionally driven anti-gun people and their long suffering victims.


6 thoughts on “There’s probably some truth to this

  1. I can’t help but think there is a lesson to be learned here; controlling incipient panic attacks might share many of the same techniques required to actively control anger or other over-stimulated emotions. I have found some of the breath techniques explored by James Nestor and Wim Hof to be useful in this regard.

  2. Good to know. I carry a gun all the time. So, I don’t have to over-think who’s thinking/wanting to do something….Stupid, at any given time.
    As always, experience breeds a certain comfort level in all matters.

  3. I am peaceful because I choose to be. I am capable of horrific violence, but I control that tendency by active choice. If you are not capable of violence you are not peaceful, you are harmless. Be wise and know the difference because some of us can always make a different choice.

  4. “If you are not capable of violence, you are not peaceful you are harmless.”

    Just thought those words need repeating.
    They will come in handy over the coming decade.

    • Or there is the way Gandhi put it:
      “He who cannot protect himself or his nearest and dearest or their honor by non-violently facing death may and ought to do so by violently dealing with the oppressor. He who can do neither of the two is a burden. He has no business to be the head of a family. He must either hide himself, or must rest content to live for ever in helplessness and be prepared to crawl like a worm at the bidding of a bully.” — Mohandas K. Gandhi, “The Mind of Mahatma Gandhi”, cited at

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