Quote of the Day
If a man wants to cum on his girlfriend’s face because he saw it in porn, and she doesn’t feel like getting her face cummed on, we cheer go-girl and frown at the man for even watching porn at all. But if a woman wants her boyfriend to buy her flowers because she grew up being fed this action in movies, and her boyfriend doesn’t feel like it, we have no sympathy for him. We are horrified even at comparing the two things. It’s obvious to us that porn should not influence what happens in sex, but we have been so immersed in romance-porn that the idea of buying flowers for a woman is seen as what romance ought to be. The romance narrative has become romance, and rejecting the narrative becomes rejecting romance itself. We have lost the ability to distinguish!
Aella
April 9, 2026
The Other Porn Land – by Aella – Knowingless
I love how Aella can see alternate realities and express them in ways that make me laugh and almost whoop for joy at the twisting of everyone’s view of the world.
The same sort of things applies to gun ownership. “Guns are icky and only criminals have them” versus “Everyone should have guns and know how to use them because they are tools for self-defense against criminals and tyrants.”
Framing matters. Media and your peer groups dominate the positioning of the framing. Try to see through framing and get a grasp on the true reality. Seeing things other people cannot see gives you a huge advantage. We cannot all be Aella or Elon Musk, but we can do better than what we currently do. Realty is tough, really, really, tough.
That sort of framing follows a lot of issues around.
Interestingly, these sort of pairings tend to all face one way.
Men have unique duties and responsibilities, women don’t.
We have a right to an education, but no duty to actually try to learn.
We have a right to free speech, but no obligation to speak honestly (unless talking to the slave-owners, er, I mean, the State).
Women want a man who earns more than her, but she wants equal pay.
Everyone can live in white-majority communities if they want, except whites.
Religion is bad and makes people irrational, but they only bash Christians.
Women should have high standards and boundaries, but men are not allowed to or they are controlling and misogynist.
You must applaud “Black lives matter!” but saying “It’s OK to be white” is racist.
Etc., etc., etc. Logical consistency isn’t the hallmark of modern popular discourse, because it’s all driven by leftist media… huh, funny, that, given https://blog.joehuffman.org/2026/04/09/useful-idiots/
It’s almost like they are related.
Well said, well said!
Porn directed at men, sex without commitment, is bad.
Porn directed at women is good, commitment without sex — Romance novels, aka bodice rippers.
It wasn’t men that bought the 100M copies of 50 Shades of Gray.
Pushing 200M.
Damn straight.
However, I think this is a new phenomenon, a sort of crossover between Romantica and porn, marketed to wymmyns: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XZ3OPifyQZ8
“Porn directed at men, sex without commitment, is bad.
Porn directed at women is good, commitment without sex”
Yeah, I’ve referred to Twilight as “porn for women” for years.
It scratches the exactly equivalent itches in women, and the men are just as incidental and unvalued, if not more so.
And there are plenty of “lesser” versions – “TnA shows for women” or what have you.
iirc, Fifty Shades is explicitly, transparently, a port of the Twilight story from a setting of vampires and werewolves to a setting of BDSM.
Men giving flowers to women as a romantic gesture long predates romcoms.
True, but missing the point.
Also, I would like to point out that I find nothing romantic about the gifting of dismembered plant genitals.
Another, more impactful media influenced frame of reference:
Senator Joseph McCarthy <- if you have ever used "McCarthyism" you are victims of this media manufactured media narrative.
Ask a feminist if they support “equality”. When they inevitably answer “yes”, follow on with “so, you support a man’s right to end an unwanted pregnancy?”